Both of my digital cameras sit with over a hundred photos on them...
My myspace 365 photo challenge sits, neglected, with only 4 photos...
My poor blog readership has plummeted because I have been suffering from blank brain whenever I open blogger dashboard...
These are sad days, my friends...
Homeschool yesterday made me contemplate shoving my head through our office window. Oh this girl is so strong willed. I feel like sending vital organs to every teacher she's had, as a way of attempting to make up for what our family has put them through. I feel like it may freak them out at first, to open up a package filled with an igloo cooler and a kidney. Once they saw who the sender was, though, I am sure a peace would transcend and they would say out loud "well, it's a start."
A friend dropped by yesterday (which is the only way I will have any adult interaction this week as I am carless...) and said to me "you are so patient with her! If she were my daughter and she acted like this, I would probably kill myself." Awe, so kind to say. Really. For one snippet of a second, she understood. Denae says this too, at times. I think I am miraculously patient with her, to a point. Yesterday that point came SEVEN hours after I sat down with her and she yelled, copped a crazy defiant attitude and explained to me that she was in charge and could do whatever she wanted, whenever she wanted- over and over. After the clock struck the seventh hour I said "I can no longer juggle the sugar cookie chaos which is consuming my kitchen (heart shaped, for the Hallmark day of love...) and your intense-very mistaken shenanigans. Daddy can pick up from here, I'm done today..."
And so she played... And when he came home, she mouthed off to him and told him (in front of me) that she had a great, productive day.
He is not so patient. The outcome of her day wasn't her favorite, but I don't care.
Besides. I am tired of getting in trouble by him while she sits there smiling. I get yelled at (not really yelling, but stern speaking) about many-a-things... Finally Sunday I lost my composure and his response was "well, this is new for me."
"yeah... me too buddy. For six months this has been my house and I had to figure out the way things worked without you. Then you come in here, all controlling, and want everything to be different. I can't live up to your expectation or pressure. Everyone is trying here, chill out."
hmmm....
did I mention I am stuck home without a car, going slightly insane? :)
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
Do Prisoners Get Blog Time???
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Oh, my friend. Hang in there. Sounds like everyone is adjusting. Heart goes out to ya. If ya go to prisoner, I'll write ya! Love, Esther
Hope things get better for you! I absolutely hate it when I'm left home without a car. Even if I don't go anywhere all day, I like to know that I can go out if I need too! I'm sure things will turn around soon!
I've been checking every day to see how things were going. I'm sorry to hear things are tough..I can't imagine. Also remember that most of the population of this country cannot homeschool!!!! It's so hard, even without the extra challenges you have. You are one of the strongest people I've ever known. I know you can do this.
I've been checking in on you waiting for an update, sorry to hear that the adjustment times are hard. I have been there too (in a different, but similar way) and it will get better!
I'm sorry you're having such a rough go of it. Adjustments are always harder than we expect, aren't they. Good luck, I hope it smooths out for you soon.
let me clarify--- It really isn't a rough time. It's good having the hubby home. REALLY good. he just needs to lighten up a little. And he will. His last job just really wound him up tightly and it will take some time to loosen up...
And Gen. Well. She is Genny. She is defiant and darling all rolled in to one :)
Oh I hope things get better for you... and that the husband can find a way to understand what you're going through.
I hate not having a car! Thanks for visiting my blog & yes it is wrong that the article on Detroit being the most miserable city made you smile. Just kidding, it made me smile as well. Probably not for the same reasons, since I'm still stuck here. I'm just glad we aren't the only ones suffering, lol. Misery loves company right. Thanks again for stopping by! You are lucky to have gotten out of MI, we are trying just cant' seem to get the funds together for a big move.
Kids! Men! Agh!
We should have a homeschool moms retreat... a week of sipping wine, watching Johnny Depp movies and getting our feet massaged...
I agree with Maggie! (excpet I'll have some herbal tea with extra honey!!)
I have had days where I have felt like driving my daughter to the bus stop to go to school. thank GOD that they come only once a blue moon and that I know deep down what I am doing right now works for us.
PS- I dont mind sharing some techniques with you about the altered book!
Hey girl -- I can relate to so much of what you write.
When I came home after two months of being in the hospital (recuperating from a car accident), Mark had rearranged the kitchen cabinets. His way "made more sense". What the -- ?? Get outta my kitchen!! We had quite a struggle working things -- not just cabinet things -- out.
You and Genny sound so much like Meredith and me when we started homeschooling. We sat down at the table every weekday morning at 9:00am and worked our way through the Calvert curriculum for the day. She hated it, I hated it. She hated me. I wanted to shake her.
I do not want to sound like an unschooling proselytizer. I will just say: Not sending your kids to school DOESN'T have to be "hard". Life has been good since we made the switch -- 9 years ago -- and these days my almost-21yo daughter is an artist and art teacher at a private school. She is happy. :)
I did not read through every comment so I hope I am not being repetitive. It sounds like you and hubby need to find some time to sit down and talk about how to do things. Tell him what you have been doing -what has worked and what has not worked. Let him tell you what he would like to see change. the important thing here is to also express why things have worked and why they have not worked. And for him to tell you why he wants things to be a certain way. because often times the Why can explain so many things. It can also make it easier for the other person to see the point of view. I know for us - when I explain why I need/want something to be a certain way it helps my hubby see that I am not saying it is the only way or the best way, but it is what works for right now with the individual circumstance. you need to stand united before your daughter, let her know she can pull the wool over either set of eyes. (been there and done that one)
Also, both of you ought to share with the other what one thing you need more than anything else from the other.
p.s. - I'm not a professional, but I play one on the Internet. (bwahahahaha)
Oh goodness. I can NOT imagine what you are dealing with. I have very little patience. I always say that teaching my kids ANYTHING, has been the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my whole life. God bless you for trying though!
Hey Misty - it was nice to hear from you today - didn't know if you were still around :)
Sounds like you're raising a world leader! The extraordinary ones are always strong-willed...at least that's what I keep trying to reassure myself with regarding my oldest daughter:) That's tough! I admire your patience (SEVEN hours?!) I wonder where she gets her stubborness ;)
I was without a car for a week recently too - I feel for ya. Hang in there!
Daiquiri
Ginny~
I am sorry you are trapped... It took us forever to get out- and when we did- it wasn't pretty.
Here is to a smoother escape for you!
Maggie & Kelly-- LET's DO IT!!!
Laura~ Ironically, life was harder before homeschool... This way, she may infuriate me but I get her great moments too. When she public schooled, I never saw great moments... :)
The hospital thing sounds like my worst nightmare. AND EXACTLY what my husband would do. GAH!
Thanks for your comment. you know, I always appreciate your words!
smocklady~ No worries, you were the first and truly, that is GREAT advice!!!
Daquiri~
Still around. always...
Your optimism intrigues me... If we are looking at potential world leadership, I am shaking in my boots. :)
momo--- As always, you made me laugh... You are the smarter one, as I told you earlier- today you may be on to something.
I am sending good vibes your way.
You are a very strong woman! I think that one of the reasons my husband and I get along is that he is never home.
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